The type of relationships we create with others, our friends, children, work colleagues and intimate relationships offer us a much insight into our inner world. The relationships we create with others are reflecting the pictures of our inner reality and sub-conscious beliefs back to us. If someone is always pushing your buttons, triggering uncomfortable or painful emotions within you, then they are connecting with an unhealed part of you that you are not yet at peace with, an aspect of yourself that you are not owning.
Any non-serving beliefs about yourself and others created from the wounded, unhealed parts of you will attract and create relationships that reflect this. If you have hidden feelings of being a bad person, unworthy of love and respect, then you may attract others that mirror this by treating you accordingly. Although, it is easy to feel victimised by others and fall into a trap of self-pity, it does not help. It is more helpful to recognise that others are letting us know what we hold within ourselves. By accepting that we are influencing our experiences with others we can then take responsibility for healing our wounds, challenging our beliefs, changing our thought and behaviour patterns to create more rewarding and fulfilling relationships.
It requires courage to look within and explore our hidden thoughts, beliefs and feelings, to take responsibility for our feelings and the relationships we attract. Inner change begins when we stop blaming others but begin the inner exploration needed to integrate and heal all parts of ourselves. By recognising our innocence whilst taking responsibility for our experiences, we liberate and empower ourselves to integrate and love those unhealed aspects of ourselves we are disowning. As you heal and positively change on the inside others will mirror back the positive changes accordingly.