The type of relationships we create with others, our friends, children, work colleagues and intimate relationships offer us a much insight into our inner world. The relationships we create with others are reflecting the pictures of our inner reality and sub-conscious beliefs back to us. If someone is always pushing your buttons, then they are resonating with a part of you that you are not yet at peace with, an aspect of yourself that you are not owning. For instance if others are always expressing anger to you, this may reflect the anger hiding inside of you that you are not expressing for some reason. Maybe you find others behavior very aloof and distant towards you. However, this could be reflecting your own trust issues that you mask with a protective barrier to inhibit close and intimate contact with others.
Any non-serving beliefs about yourself and others created from the wounded, unhealed parts of you will attract and create relationships that reflect this. If you have hidden feelings of being a bad person, unworthy of love and respect, then you may attract others that mirror this by treating you accordingly. Although, it is easy to feel victimised by others and fall into a trap of self-pity, it does not help. It is more helpful to recognise that others are letting us know what we hold within ourselves. By accepting that we are creating our experiences with others we realise there is no one to blame. We can then take responsibility for healing our wounds, challenging our beliefs, changing our thought and behavior patterns to create more rewarding and fulfilling relationships.
It requires courage to look within, to see what thoughts, beliefs and feelings are hiding inside, and to accept responsibility for both our feelings and the relationships we create. Inner change begins when we stop blaming others but begin the inner exploration needed to integrate and love those hidden aspects of ourselves we are rejecting. By recognising our innocence whilst taking responsibility for our experiences we liberate and empower ourselves. Once we integrate and love those unhealed aspects of ourselves we are disowning, others will no longer need to mirror the shadow aspects of us.