The fears you feel are usually nothing to do with the present moment, but are being triggered by hidden, repressed emotions buried within you from some past psychological trauma in your life.
Your fears create so much stress within you as you are triggered to repeat self sabotaging thoughts, behaviours and ways of being in order to protect yourself from the inherent vulnerability and pain of unresolved emotional wounds.
Others are a reflection of our inner world. Others mirror our beliefs about ourselves, others and the world. Our most intimate relationships are the biggest emotional triggers that show to us the unresolved, hidden parts of us that we reject. When we can deeply understand that others are a mirror of our inner self, we can then begin to see all our relationships in a new light.
Shame can be seen as the shadow side of ourselves, the part of us that we do not wish to reveal to others. Shame is afeeling deep within the core of ourselves that convinces us that we are in some way inferior. Shame can always be found hidden underneath feelings of unworthiness and fear.
Fear acts as a safety mechanism that warns us when we are facing potential danger. However the fear we experience is rarely life threatening, but is more often a warning sign that we are about to step out of our comfort zone. Our comfort zone is where we feel safe and secure.